Christina Dalton

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Tina Turner may have gotten it right. February, the month known for Valentine’s Day, is the most symbolic month for love. Candy shops explode in their highest sales and florists can’t keep up with the demand for roses. The irony is that from January through March, the divorce rate spikes in the United States. For those who feel the need for a partner to be complete in this month, February may also be the loneliest month of the year.

The American author Bell Hooks wrote: “Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.”

I would like to reframe February and offer a challenge - to welcome the opportunities to build a relationship with yourself. Too often when a relationship fails, it is natural to begin dating again, and even marry again. We often confuse being lonely with being alone. Avoiding ourselves, even running from ourselves, is not unusual. However, here is the reality:


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